My Experience With Miscarriage and Recurrent Miscarriage
Most of the time, we can't really figure out why it happens...we finally get pregnant, then, BAM, it's gone.
Miscarriage
seems like a cruel trick that the universe plays on you. You are so
elated to finally become pregnant only to have all your hopes, dreams,
and plans for the future end in miscarriage. You ask yourself, was it
something I did? Did I exercise too much? Did I eat or take something I
shouldn't have? And for many women, things get even worse when this
happens over and over again.
I
had multiple miscarriages (including 2 ectopic pregnancies) until I
joyously carried my last pregnancy to term. While all of this was going
on, I went through every feeling in the book.
Not
only was I jealous of most of the pregnant women I saw, I was also
angry and down on myself for not being able to have a baby. That's why
women are here on this earth, right? To procreate? I felt hopeless and
alone. Nobody could tell me why this was happening.
All
of these emotions are normal and my best advice is to feel every one of
them. I screamed, shouted and got these emotions out of my system. The
more you hold it inside, the more toxic these emotions become. Now that I
have the benefit of hindsight I can share my insights:
Give
yourself time to grieve. Acknowledge that this was a child you lost,
not just a cluster of cells. You might want to have a private funeral or
memorial. Light a candle and say a prayer for your baby. You may feel
like you need to start trying to get pregnant again, but it may do you
good to feel your pain before moving on. It really is a relief to just
get mad, to not be strong, and to fall apart - even if for just a short
time.
Recurrent
miscarriage can be overcome. Don't think pregnancy is impossible.
Miscarriage is a common occurance. Most women who have miscarriages go
on to have one or more children.
I
was able to regain control of my body and have a perfectly normal
pregnancy without medical intervention - even after six miscarriages.
This proved to me that I can create my own reality. I'm a firm believer
that you attract what you think and if you're in a constant state of
expecting failure, it's hard to make room for success.
Once
you've moved through the grief and pain, dare to dream again. I know
it's hard to imagine success when you've dealt with so much
disappoinment, but you have to know that this can happen, you can get
pregnant. Make an inviting environment for your baby to come into. Think
good thoughts, this will attract what you want in your life.
Most
of the time, we can't really figure out why it happens...we finally get
pregnant, then, BAM, it's gone. Miscarriage seems like a cruel trick
that the universe plays on you. You are so elated to finally become
pregnant only to have all your hopes, dreams, and plans for the future
end in miscarriage. You ask yourself, was it something I did? Did I
exercise too much? Did I eat or take something I shouldn't have? And for
many women, things get even worse when this happens over and over
again.
I
had multiple miscarriages (including 2 ectopic pregnancies) until I
joyously carried my last pregnancy to term. While all of this was going
on, I went through every feeling in the book.
Not
only was I jealous of most of the pregnant women I saw, I was also
angry and down on myself for not being able to have a baby. That's why
women are here on this earth, right? To procreate? I felt hopeless and
alone. Nobody could tell me why this was happening.
All
of these emotions are normal and my best advice is to feel every one of
them. I screamed, shouted and got these emotions out of my system. The
more you hold it inside, the more toxic these emotions become. Now that I
have the benefit of hindsight I can share my insights:
Give
yourself time to grieve. Acknowledge that this was a child you lost,
not just a cluster of cells. You might want to have a private funeral or
memorial. Light a candle and say a prayer for your baby. You may feel
like you need to start trying to get pregnant again, but it may do you
good to feel your pain before moving on. It really is a relief to just
get mad, to not be strong, and to fall apart - even if for just a short
time.
Recurrent
miscarriage can be overcome. Don't think pregnancy is impossible.
Miscarriage is a common occurrence. Most women who have miscarriages go
on to have one or more children.
I
was able to regain control of my body and have a perfectly normal
pregnancy without medical intervention - even after six miscarriages.
This proved to me that I can create my own reality. I'm a firm believer
that you attract what you think and if you're in a constant state of
expecting failure, it's hard to make room for success.
Once
you've moved through the grief and pain, dare to dream again. I know
it's hard to imagine success when you've dealt with so much
disappointment, but you have to know that this can happen, you can get
pregnant. Make an inviting environment for your baby to come into. Think
good thoughts, this will attract what you want in your life.