You Can Get Pregnant Over 40 Naturally

You Can Get Pregnant Over 40 Naturally


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Thursday, December 31, 2009

Happy New Year!

Wishing you a safe holiday

I'll be back 1-5-10

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Happy Holidays!

Here's hoping you receive that which you want the most.

Have a safe holiday and holiday weekend.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Miscarriage May Distance You From Your Partner

I guess I was fortunate that for me and my husband, infertility and miscarriage brought us closer together (with the exception of the times I was on fertility drugs and I became a raving lunatic). But for many couples, infertility and especially miscarriage can put a wedge in a marriage or partnership. Here is an article from about how miscarriage can distance a relationship:

33% of women fell distant from partner post-miscarriage (

Here is one important passage from the article:

"When women felt that their male partners failed to do things to show they cared, women perceived greater distance in their relationships," Swanson says. "However, when women perceived that their partners engaged in mutual sharing of feelings and experiences, they claimed to be closer interpersonally and sexually."

Tuesday, December 08, 2009

OTC Meds and Miscarriage

You probably already know that you need to watch what medications you're taking if you're pregnant. However, some over-the-counter meds can cause problems if you're taking them right before pregnancy. Many women who don't know they're pregnant may think they're having menstrual cramps (I experienced some cramping with all my pregnancies, even my successful one)and they might take something for the pain. Unfortunately, ibuprofen which is quite affective for cramps can also contribute to miscarriage. Read more:

From the article:

by Alan Greene, MD FAAP

Women who take aspirin, ibuprofen (Motrin, Advil, etc.), or naproxen (Alleve) during pregnancy or just before may have an 80 percent increased risk of miscarriage, according to a study in the August 16, 2003 British Medical Journal. The study was conducted at Kaiser Permanente in the San Francisco Bay Area.

When women first had a positive pregnancy test, they were asked to list any and all medicines they had been taking since their last menstrual periods. Use of the above medicines was associated with more miscarriages even after adjusting for fever or other symptoms, the mothers' age, hot tub use, smoking, or previous miscarriages. Those who took the above medicines in the days right around conception had a markedly higher chance of problems (a 560 percent increased risk, or 35 percent miscarriages). Most women who took the medicines for longer than a week lost their babies (an 810 percent increased risk or 52 percent miscarriages).

Friday, December 04, 2009

Miscarriage Support

Here is a good resource for women who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death:

Honored Babies

This site may provide the comfort and support that you need after a miscarriage or infant death. I usually suffered in silence after my losses, but it would have been helpful to have some support as offered by this site.

Tuesday, December 01, 2009

Does H1N1 Vaccine Contribute to Miscarriage?

I'm starting to hear about how the H1N1 vaccine may not be safe for children or pregnant women. I've posted some resources here so you can educate yourself and make your own informed decision. Read more:

Here is another resource called Organic Health which talks about a possible association between miscarriage and the vaccine:

Monday, November 23, 2009

Miscarriage Risk Cut In Half With Fruits and Vegetables

I can't say enough how important your diet is before and of course during pregnancy. Here is a good article about the importance of your diet in the prevention of miscarriage:

UK: eating fruit and veg 'halves miscarriage risk'

From the article:

"A good diet is vital in pregnancy. Eating fruit and vegetables daily halves the chance of miscarriage, research shows. A study of thousands of pregnant women revealed those who included fruit and veg regularly in their diet were 46 per cent less likely to miscarry..."

Friday, November 20, 2009

Meditation & Visualization For Fertility and Pregnancy

I'm very proud and excited to announce my new CD on Visualization and Meditation for Fertility. It's a project I've been working on for the last year and I developed it after hearing from a number of women who wanted to know how to visualize and meditate - especially with the goal of conceiving and carrying a pregnancy to term. I'm a firm believer that everything we manifest in our life starts with our thoughts. Here is more information about the CD. The link below has an area where you can listen to a preview.

Listen to a preview here:

You Can Get Pregnant Over 40, Naturally
Visualization & Meditation

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Miscarriage Resource

I found a good site called which does a good job putting into words all of the emotions and fears couples go through after a miscarriage. The link below talks about everything from bleeding after a miscarriage, to a couples desire to get pregnant again right away:

Conceiving After Miscarriage (

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Miscarriage Even Happens To The Rich and Famous


Celine Dion has been very open with the media about her struggle to get pregnant and how she turned to assisted reproduction for help. She had her son after IVF and apparently got pregnant again with a frozen embryo.

Sadly, according to this article she miscarried. This is so devastating to any woman whether they undergo assisted reproduction or not. Many women look at celebrities as if they "have it all", but they have their hardships too.

My condolences to Celine and her family.

Read more:

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

More On Miscarriage Prevention

If you are having a problem with miscarriage, not only do you want to know the cause of miscarriage, you want to know how to prevent miscarriage. Here is another article which not only gives causes of miscarriage, but it also gives some advice on natural ways to prevent miscarriage:

The Miscarriage Prevention Plan The latest research offers new hope for couples worried about losing a pregnancy

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Smoking: It's Not Just Cigarettes That Can Lead To Miscarriage

It's not just cigarettes that can lead to a multitude of problems in pregnancy, smoking marijuana can also lead to miscarriage. I am assuming most women who want to get pregnant are not involved with illegal drugs, but according to the article below, marijuana is the most widely used illegal drug among women of reproductive age. Read more:

Marijuana Use Causes Early Pregnancy Failure (

Marijuana, the most widely used illegal drug among women of reproductive age, binds to 2 receptors -- cannabinoid receptors 1 and 2 (CB1, CB2) -- which are found in the brain and other organs including sperm, eggs, and newly formed embryos. Normally, these 2 receptors are activated by the naturally occurring signaling molecule anandamide. Anandamide formation by the enzyme NAPE-PLD is carefully balanced with its degradation by the enzyme FAAH, resulting in a finely tuned local "anandamide tone" in embryos and the oviduct. This balance is required for normal embryonic development, transport along the oviduct, implantation in the uterus, and full-term pregnancy.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

What Is CVS and What Are The Risks?

My prenatal screening pretty much consisted of an amniocentesis at 15 weeks. However there is another test called CVS or Chorionic Villus Sampling. Here is an article that explains what it is, what it screens for, and the risks:

Patient information: Chorionic villus sampling
Alessandro Ghidini, MD
Rodney McLaren, MD

A pregnant woman may consider CVS testing if:

She desires genetic testing for fetal chromosome anomalies (however, because CVS entails some risk of pregnancy loss, most women consider CVS if the risk of a fetal genetic disease, like Down syndrome, outweigh the risks of the procedure)
There is a close family or previous pregnancy history of a genetic disorder
She has had an abnormal screening test result during her first trimester, raising questions about whether the fetus has Down syndrome (See "Patient information: First trimester and integrated screening for Down syndrome").
Genetic disorders that can be diagnosed from DNA analysis can be determined with CVS or amniocentesis. Neural tube defects in the fetus cannot be detected by CVS...
COMPLICATIONS — The most serious complications from CVS are fetal damage and miscarriage. CVS does not affect the risk of stillbirth or infant death.

Miscarriage — Studies have shown that CVS increases a woman's risk of miscarriage. For every 100 women who undergo CVS, approximately one woman will have a miscarriage as a result of the procedure. The risk of CVS is higher than that of amniocentesis, after which approximately one in 200 women will have a miscarriage related to the procedure.

There appears to be an even higher risk of miscarriage with the transcervical CVS technique compared to the transabominal technique. Other factors that further increase the risk of CVS include having the procedure three or more times and having a fetus that is smaller than normal for their age. The physician's skill and experience also play an important role.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Drinking Alcohol In Pregnancy: Even A Little Dangerous

Most women know to avoid alcohol in pregnancy, but many women wonder about having just "a little bit". The following article from The March Of Dimes addresses the dangers of alcohol in pregnancy even in small amounts:

Drinking Alcohol During Pregnancy (

From the article:

Although many women are aware that heavy drinking during pregnancy can cause birth defects, many do not realize that moderate—or even light—drinking also may harm the fetus.
In fact, no level of alcohol use during pregnancy has been proven safe. Therefore, the March of Dimes recommends that pregnant women do not drink any alcohol—including beer, wine, wine coolers and hard liquor—throughout their pregnancy and while nursing. In addition, because women often do not know they are pregnant for a few months, women who may be pregnant or those who are attempting to become pregnant should abstain from drinking alcoholic beverages.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Is The Food You're Eating Safe During Pregnancy?

I was pretty careful about what I ate during pregnancy, but I did occasionally eat out. There are some foods you should watch out for since they may harbor certain organisms which could lead to miscarriage if you're infected:

Food Safety During Pregnancy

From the article:

"Examples of pathogens of special concern to pregnant women are Listeria monocytogenes, Toxoplasma gondii, Brucella species, Salmonella species and Campylobacter jejuni. Certain organisms can cross the placenta and increase the fetus’s risk of becoming infected. Infection can result in miscarriage, stillbirth, premature labor or severe complications for the baby. Certain organisms, including Listeria monocytogenes, Toxoplasma gondii, Salmonella typhi and Campylobacter jejuni, can have adverse consequences for the fetus if they cross the placenta."

If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant, I urge you to read the entire article to learn how to protect yourself from these infections.

Thursday, October 08, 2009

Do Miscarried Souls Return?

I've talked to a number of women who've experienced miscarriage or recurrent miscarriage. When these women do succeed in having a baby, many wonder if one of their miscarried baby's souls "came back" into their baby.

Obviously my official answer to this is "I don't know". All I can give you is my experience and my opinion. Before my daughter was born, while I was pregnant with her, she moved around like crazy. I would feel her kick more than 40 times in one hour. After she was born she was and still is VERY active and has a real zest for life. She wants to participate in everything and she isn't one that needs a lot of reassurance or cuddling (I wish she liked to cuddle more). I think one reason she picked me as her mother (and I think she did pick me) is she knew that I had the maturity and patience to deal with her strong personality. I frequently joke around and say "Any baby that can survive in my uterus must be pretty strong willed".

So in answer to whether or not one of my six miscarried babies came back as my daughter, I would have to say no. I think my daughter held on so tight there's no way I could have ever lost her pregnancy. I'm not saying that my babies who miscarried didn't have the will to live (and I try not to blame myself for not being able to give them life), it's just that my "gut" feeling is that they were all different souls.

I often wonder where they are and who they are. Maybe we'll all meet again someday.

Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Smoking Correlation With Infant Death

Most women I've known who are trying to get pregnant or who have suffered one or more miscarriages wouldn't dream of smoking (at least during pregnancy), however it's worth posting this article about how there actually is a correlation between smoking in pregnancy and infant death (as well as low birthweight and premature babies). I recall, years ago, knowing a woman I worked with (a nurse if you can believe it) who went through IVF, got pregnant with twins, and smoked throughout her pregnancy! Her poor little babies were born premature and my last memory is of those tiny little babies in their stroller with tubes of oxygen all around. I feel a pang of anger and sadness everytime I think about it.

Here is an article from about a study done on the dangers of smoking:

5,600 Infant Deaths Tied to Mothers' Smoking

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Incompetent Cervix and Miscarriage

One complication in pregnancy is called "incompetent cervix" which can cause pre-term delivery and miscarriage. Here is an article that explains more about the condition:

Incompetent Cervix : Weakened Cervix

According the the article:

"A weakened cervix can be caused by one or more of the following conditions:

Previous surgery on the cervix
Damage during a difficult birth
Malformed cervix or uterus from a birth defect
Previous trauma to the cervix, such as a D&C (dilation and curettage) from a termination or a miscarriage
DES (Diethylstilbestrol) exposure"

If you have a weakened cervix and you are pregnant, you may be eligible for a procedure called "cerclage" where they stitch and reinforce the cervix allowing many women to carry to term.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Loss of Sexual Desire After Miscarriage

Miscarriage can be such a devastating experience it's no wonder women (and maybe men)just may not feel much desire for anything including sex. It's hard to resume your daily life after such a big let down. It seems that the universe has played a nasty trick on you by getting your hopes up only to be slammed down. Here is an article from about the loss of sexual desire after a miscarriage:

Ask Dr. Greenfield Loss of Sexual Desire after Miscarriage

Wednesday, September 09, 2009

Losing a Baby

I can't even begin to understand the emotional pain a couple must go through when they lose a baby. Miscarriage itself is devastating, and I can only imagine that losing a baby after birth is even more so. Here is an insightful article written by a woman who lost her baby after heart surgery and her helpful advice:

Losing a baby
Katherine writes about coping with the death of her baby (

From the article:

We have learned a lot about life, and death. We now have immense sympathy for those who have sick children, or who have lost a child. Our most supportive friends have been those who have experienced serious illness and bereavement themselves. The best way to cope is to let grief take its course. There is no right or wrong way to mourn. To weep, to talk. Grief may take a while to emerge, and may appear as anger or jealousy.

Coping with other people's attitudes has been difficult. In the 1990s we are so removed from death, and the death of a baby is a genuine shock to everyone. Some people think that referring to the baby will make you upset. But what I want more than anything is for people to say that they are sorry. I need people to acknowledge my son's short life, and for my role as a mother to be acknowledged. To fail to mention Matthew is to deny his existence, and that hurts. I am proud to show people my lovely photographs. I'm pleased to tell them what happened. I appreciate being asked how I am, and am I coping? If I don't want to open my heart, I won't, but sometimes I do need to talk.

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

Vaccine Related To Miscarriage?

Many women don't know they're pregnant when they agree to be vaccinated. This article talks about how the new HPV vaccine, Gardasil may be related to some miscarriages. Read more:

From the article:

(NaturalNews) Since the approval of human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine Gardasil in June 2006, 28 cases have been reported of pregnant women miscarrying after receiving the vaccine. Saying that this miscarriage rate is no different than that of the general population, the FDA has said that it will not call for further investigations into the drug's safety.

The miscarriage reports come from the Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS), which contains raw data about any event that occurs after taking a medication that might be related to use of the drug.

Gardasil, produced by Merck, protects against two strains of HPV that have been identified as responsible for 70 percent of cervical cancer cases, plus two strains that cause 90 percent of genital warts. A total of 3,461 negative reactions after taking Gardasil were reported to the database, including eight deaths.

Of the 28 reported miscarriages, several were listed as cause unknown, leading a federal investigator to say that one of these, at least, "may have been caused by Gardasil because the patient received the injection within 30 days of the pregnancy."

Friday, August 21, 2009

Miscarriage and Passive Smoke

We all know that it's been well established that smoking before and during pregnancy should absolutely be avoided. However, the following article discusses how passive smoke may be related to miscarriage. Read more:

Passive smoke link to miscarriage
Smoking has a number of effects on health
The chances of a miscarriage rise sharply if a woman's partner smokes heavily during her pregnancy, research has found. (BBC News)

From the article:

In all, 84% of the women whose husbands did not smoke eventually fell pregnant and gave birth.

Among those whose partners did smoke the rate was 76%.

The study was conducted by the Harvard School of Public Health in America and Beijing Medical University in China between 1996 and 1998.

Researcher Dr Scott Venners said the study suggested that some of the babies lost by women whose partners smoked would otherwise have survived to full term.

The scientists believe that smoking could cause damage to the chromosomes in sperm.

In addition, exposure to tobacco smoke breathed in by a pregnant woman may endanger the developing foetus by affecting levels of female sex hormones, or by reducing blood flow through the placenta.

Monday, August 17, 2009

Feelings After A Miscarriage

Pregnancy Loss And Miscarriage Over 40

My site:
Here's an insightful article on the emotional dilemma many women experience after a miscarriage:

Feelings After A Miscarriage
by Dana Dovitch, PhD, Editorial Advisor

The greatest stumbling blocks to healing after miscarriage are sometimes created by the very people in a woman's life who want to provide her with support. All too often friends, loving family members and even well intended doctors and nurses unintentionally minimize the loss surrounding a miscarriage. Their comforting words might serve to disavow a woman's experience of loss rather than allowing room for it. Commonly heard expressions like, "It was early in your pregnancy," "Miscarriage is not uncommon," or "You'll have other chances" might be interpreted by a woman to mean "This happens all the time. It's no big deal. You don't have to get so upset."

On the receiving end of such tarnished comfort a woman might be left feeling guilty for feeling grief stricken, after all, miscarriage, she is told, is not "uncommon". Or she might feel angry and think to herself, "No one understands what I'm going through!! I don't care if miscarriages happen all the time. It's a big deal to me and I feel wrecked!" Then she might find herself feeling isolated and alone in her experience.

The feelings around miscarriage are not very well understood by many of us. When miscarriage occurs early on in a pregnancy it can be falsely viewed by outsiders as only the loss of the mere "possibility" of a baby and not the loss of a child. A woman in her first trimester may not even appear pregnant and, therefore, to outsiders, her pregnancy may seem less real than were she in her seventh month. But, trust me, her pregnancy is very real to her. The two month old baby in her womb may already have a name. The baby that is barely larger than a bean may be awaiting summers at camp, swimming lessons and mommy's dream of a college education.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Ectopic Pregnancy FAQ's

Here is a good informational site that goes through some frequently asked questions about ectopic pregnancy. Even though I had two ectopic pregnancies, I still learned something from this site:

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Another Good Miscarriage Resource

When I was trying to conceive, I would frequently turn to "Resolve" for information. Resolve is a non-profit organization which supports women going through infertility, miscarriage and/or considering adoption. Here is a link to a pdf file on Miscarriage which is a thorough summary of causes, symptoms and the emotional aspects of having a miscarriage:

Miscarriage - The Hidden Loss (

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Miscarriage from Toxoplasmosis

Miscarriage Due To Toxoplasmosis

My elderly cat died before I was pregnant with my daughter.
My site:
 However, if you're pregnant and have a cat, cleaning the litter box is something you shouldn't do due to an organism which can be transmitted and has the potential to cross the placenta. Read more:

Toxoplasmosis and Pregnancy(

From the site:


Toxoplasmosis is the disease syndrome caused by a protozoan organism called Toxoplasma gondii. It affects most animals (most notably sheep, cats, and humans.), but even insects, fish, and earthworms may be carriers. Because of the risk to an unborn child, many medical doctors go so far as to recommend that pregnant women do not keep cats as pets.


A human with an acute Toxoplasma infection experiences varying degrees of illness: fever, swollen lymph nodes, muscle stiffness, joint pain, swollen liver, and spleen (manifested as a sore upper abdomen). These symptoms may be so mild as to go unnoticed. Illness lasts 1-12 weeks and is often dismissed as a bad cold or mononucleosis.

However, if the person infected is a pregnant woman, the Toxoplasma organism may cross the placenta. The amount of damage done depends on the stage of pregnancy at the time of infection. Infection in early pregnancy may result in miscarriage or stillbirth. Infection in early pregnancy may result in a child with varying degrees of blindness (due to inflamed retina) and/or various severe neurological conditions including hydrocephalus, microcephaly, and retardation. Sometimes problems are not evident at birth and show up late in life.

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

Surviving a Stillbirth

All of my miscarriages were in the first trimester - so I can't claim to even begin to understand the heartbreak and devastation women go through when their near full-term baby dies. Here is an article from the American Pregnancy Assn. about what to expect with a stillbirth and surviving emotionally:

American Pregnancy Assn.

From the article:

Saying Hello, Goodbye, and Making Memories:
After the tests are completed, you will have the usually have the choice to spend time alone with your baby. You can find comfort in looking at, touching, and talking to your baby. Most parents find it helpful to make memories of this precious time that will last a lifetime. Here are a few ways you can make memories with your baby:

You can give your baby a bath and dress them in a special outfit. Before leaving the hospital you can take the booty or hat to have as a keepsake.
You can take pictures of your baby.
The hospital staff can give you handprints and or footprints.
You may want to take a lock of your baby’s hair.
It may seem odd at first but you can read a story or sing a lullaby to your baby.
If you would like, the nurse can record your baby’s measurements.
You probably have also named your baby by now. Be sure to tell the hospital staff as soon as possible so all documents can have your baby’s name listed.
You can have your baby christened or blessed while in the hospital.
A baptism certificate will also be given to you to keep.

Monday, June 29, 2009

Goodbye Farrah, Goodbye Michael

Picture:, Barry King/Getty Images

I'm going to dedicate my blogs today to two icons of my generation, both of whom died last week.

First Farrah: Such a beautiful woman. If you look through my highschool yearbook, almost all the girls at least attempted to have a Farrah hairdo. We had to watch Charlie's angels - not because it was a good show, but because we had to see what they were wearing and study their hair. A little shallow, I know. Back then, we didn't have cable TV, so the shows that made it big had a huge viewership and much more control over social trends. After Farrah left the show, none of the other actresses could quite reach her level of fame. Farrah went on to do more serious acting which received rave reviews. May she rest in peace.

Michael: What talent! He's exactly my age (yep, I hit the big 5-0). Boy, that really makes you wake up and feel your own mortality. I recall walking home from elementary school (back in the days when parents didn't drive kids everywhere) and singing songs like ABC and Oh Baby Give Me One More Chance. Who would have ever predicted back then that his life would have unfolded the way it did. I feel for him because he was such a tortured soul. The older I get, the more I realize that although many people strive for fame and fortune, the happiest among us are just regular run-of-the-mill people who live ordinary lives. I hope his children find peace and can stay together. Rest in peace Michael.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Do You Blame Yourself For Your Miscarriage?

Miscarriage and Blame

It's probably only natural that there's some piece of you that will blame youself for your miscarriage. I know, for me, there was always a feeling like I must have done something wrong - afterall, it happened inside of me. Most people will never know why they miscarried. In my opinion, aside from chromosomal problems, most miscarriages are probably a case of wrong place, wrong time (perhaps because of bad timing or hormonal imbalance). There are so many factors that have to occur synchronistically to get pregnant, it's a wonder anyone does.

Here's an article about how you shouldn't blame yourself:

Miscarriage And Self Blame

From the article:

"It was not my fault- just as it's not your fault that you've miscarried. No, that glass of wine or beer you had did not cause your miscarriage. No, the argument you had with your husband did not cause you so much stress that you miscarried. No, the unhealthy food you ate from a fast food restaurant didn't do it either. Please, stop knocking yourself and blaming yourself for this. I know you need answers. You want some sort of justification for your pain and loss. But, when you continually find, or try to find blame within yourself, you are hurting yourself over and over again. "

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Recurrent Miscarriage - Does Anything Help?

Here is a no-nonsense article about recurrent miscarriage and some of the treatments available. Although it is technical in nature, you may find some information which applies to your situation:

Friday, June 19, 2009

Exercise and Miscarriage

I frequently read articles which state "There is no evidence that exercise causes miscarriage". I really don't believe that. According to a study cited in this article and many others, there does seem to be some evidence that vigorous exercise early in pregnancy does increase the rate of miscarriage. I'll let you be the judge. Read more:

From the article:

Information from a Danish study, in which they interviewed 92,000 women, suggests that vigorous exercise during the first trimester greatly increases the risk of miscarriage. Their study reported that women who exercised vigorously during the early weeks of pregnancy, especially those who participated in "high impact" activities such as jogging, were 3.7 times more likely to have a miscarriage. They noted that women who swam were not at all at increased risk. These risks disappeared completely, though, after the 18th week.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Trying To Conceive Afer Miscarriage - How Long to Wait?

After my miscarriages, I had this overwhelming desire to start trying to get pregnant right away - especially since I was over 40. But I came to the realization that it may be best to wait until I had a chance to recover both physically and mentally. Here is a good article on the subject:

Conception after loss: When should you try to get pregnant again?

When I was experiencing recurrent miscarriage, everytime I got pregnant and subsequently miscarried, I always felt like I had taken one step forward but two steps back. I felt the time pressure closing in on me. This only led to more stress and anxiety which isn't good for conception under any circumstances. If you've had a miscarriage, try to take a couple months off from the trying to conceive rollercoaster. This may be a good time to acknowledge the baby you lost (I had my own little ceremony for each one), and take care of yourself physically and emotionally.

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Memorialize Your Baby After Miscarriage

I had a small memorial service after each of my miscarriages. I did this by myself, but it did seem to help me through the trauma of the whole thing. I also created a miscarriage memorial which may be viewed at:

Miscarriage Memorial

Anyone is welcome to add a memorial to their own baby on this site.

Here is an article that talks about other ways to memorialize your lost baby:

Bella Online

Tuesday, June 09, 2009

Pregnancy, The Flu, and The Flu Vaccine

I couldn't get used to the idea of injecting a foreign substance into my body when I was pregnant so I didn't get a flu shot. However, it may be recommended as the following article discusses:

Pregnancy and the Flu Vaccine (

From the article:

"The Flu Shot and Pregnancy
Pregnant women are considered to be in the high-risk group of those most vulnerable to getting the flu and are strongly urged to get a flu shot, especially if you have an increased risk of pregnancy complications due to a medical condition. While some doctors may avoid administering a vaccine to a woman who is very early in her first trimester, it is generally thought to be safe to receive the vaccine at any point during pregnancy.
Pregnant women have been found to have an increased risk of death or severe complications if they contract the flu during pregnancy. Although the general risk of death from the flu is quite low, one study showed that pregnant women have a nine times greater risk of death from flu compared to other adults. Additionally, since pregnant women have a weakened immune system, there is a greater chance of pneumonia or bronchitis developing. Even if you do not develop complications from your flu, your flu symptoms are much more likely to last longer if you are pregnant.

But what about your baby?
Generally speaking, the average flu won’t harm an unborn child. However, if your condition were to become serious, then there could be a chance of a miscarriage or preterm labor occurring. Once your baby is born, your constant close contact with your child will make your baby more susceptible to catching the flu. However, the flu virus is not thought to pass through breast milk.

While the flu shot is believed to be completely safe for both pregnant and breastfeeding women, FluMist, a nasal spray flu vaccine, is not. Unlike the flu shot, which contains killed flu virus, FluMist contains the live flu virus, thereby increasing your chances of catching the flu from the vaccine."

Monday, June 01, 2009

Announcing! Fertility Bodywork

I am very pleased and excited to share with my readers a project I've been working on for the last year. It's called "Fertility Bodywork" and it's available through my website. It's a DVD and it's designed to help prepare your physical body for conception and pregnancy. It includes fertility yoga, fertility pelvic massage, acupressure and reflexology and daily routines to enhance pelvic circulation and oxygenation.

For more information, or to order, click here:

Fertility Bodywork

Friday, May 29, 2009

Preventing Miscarriage Resource

I found a good resource which goes through a number of the causes of miscarriage and possible treatment. This may be a good resource if you've experience miscarriage or recurrent miscarriage. Read more:

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Just When You Think There's No Hope For Recurrent Miscarriage...

I recall after my sixth miscarriage, I was ready to throw in the towel. I didn't think I could take any more cruelty. That's when I got pregnant with my daughter. Somehow, my body seemed to heal itself - whatever it was that was keeping me from carrying my pregnancies to term, somehow went away. In retrospect, I firmly believe that what I now call my "pregnancy protocol" was behind this seemingly miraculous turnaround. Here is another encouraging story:

12 miscarriages - then comes miracle Joe

Wow! That's an amazing story. It just goes to show you, even in the most hopeless of situations, amazing things can happen.

Monday, May 04, 2009

Miscarriage Caused By CHF?

If you're not familiar with common healthcare abbreviations, CHF stands for "congestive heart failure". I found an interesting article about how some miscarriages may be caused by this condition in the fetus.

Read more:

From the article:

"We've identified a new kind of mechanism of fetal loss," Birnholz says. "There is a form of congestive heart failure that accounts for a lot of fetal loss. CHF is something you tend to think about in old folks with CHD (coronary heart disease). It has not been identified as such in embryos."

Birnholz performed Doppler ultrasound imaging to evaluate embryonic heart function early in the first trimester. The ultrasound measured the speed of red blood cells passing through vessels to determine the pressure dynamics within the embryo's heart.

Birnholz evaluated 1,800 cases in all, including 1,200 women whose ultrasounds showed no abnormalities. In another 125 women, 95 percent of the ultrasounds were abnormal and the women later miscarried. In another 475 cases, the ultrasound findings confirmed that the baby had died due to congestive heart failure -- even though miscarriage had not yet occurred, he says."

Monday, April 27, 2009

More Fertile After Miscarriage?

I have heard many claims that a woman may be more fertile after a miscarriage. According to this article, the statistics don't hold up. The good news cited in the article below is that the vast majority of women do become successfully pregnant even after miscarriage. Read more:

From the article:

Unsuccessful pregnancies, sometimes called missed pregnancies, are common, occurring in 30 to 50 percent of conceptions. (Some occur so early that the woman may not notice.) Many are caused by chance chromosomal abnormalities in the embryo that are unlikely to affect the next pregnancy. Others result from progesterone deficiencies; according to a 2007 review of other studies, the effectiveness of progesterone supplements in preventing future problems is somewhat unclear.

But the science is encouraging. According to a report by the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the probability of a second miscarriage is just 2.25 percent, and the odds of a third are less than 1 percent. Another study in The New England Journal of Medicine followed a large sample of healthy women seeking to conceive and found that of those who miscarried, 95 percent became pregnant within two years.

Friday, April 17, 2009

Can Intercourse In Pregnancy Cause Miscarriage?

This is a common question that comes up for most pregnant intercourse safe during pregnancy? Here is an article that addresses that question:

Prenatal Health (

From the article:

"Most experts agree that sexual intercourse is safe during early pregnancy as long as the pregnancy is proceeding normally. However, if you have had any vaginal bleeding or cramping, which could suggest the possibility of a threatened miscarriage, then sexual activity should be avoided and you should see your doctor. Although gentleness should be the rule for sex during your entire pregnancy, it's especially important late in pregnancy, when the baby's head is settling into the pelvis.

Monday, March 30, 2009

Spring Break

I'll be taking a "Spring Break" from my blogs the week of 3/30--4/3. I'll still be checking my emails. Have a relaxing week.

Be back 4/6/09.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Miscarriage and Infant Loss Memorial Bracelets

I found a site which sells memorial bracelets for miscarriage and infant loss. I have no financial interest in the site, so I'm not necessarily promoting it. I just thought this could be a source of comfort to remember your child who could have been. Whether you buy from this company or make your own bracelet, you may find the whole process helpful. Read more:

From the site:

Rose Quartz is the stone of love and emotional healing. It’s soothing energies gently help the wearer to heal from their loss, to ease their anger, hurt, pain and fears. It promotes forgiveness, and loving, bringing back an emotional balance. It is a kind and gentle stone, nurturing us through our times of need.

Blue lace agate is a protective stone, guarding us during our grief from negativity. It’s gift is the endowment of a “bold heart”. It helps us to develop and realise our inner peace. It is a stone of hope, cleansing, and harmony. Blue lace agate helps us to reach high spiritual places, connecting us to the more subtle energies found in the spiritual realm. It is also a kind and gentle stone, protecting us during our time of vulnerability and grief.

These stone were also chosen for their colours, baby blue and baby pink. Many of us do not know the sex of the babies we have lost, and I wanted something that would symbolise all of our losses. Baby pink and blue are also the colours of the pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness ribbon.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Is It Easier To Conceive After A Miscarriage?

Is it easier to conceive after a miscarriage? (

From the article:

Many doctors suggest waiting at least three months and generally this is to give you time to deal with the miscarriage, from an emotional point of view.
Of course the amount of time that you need may not be as long as this or it could be longer. There is no 'right' time to start trying again.
Research into miscarriage risk in the next pregnancy does not support any benefit to waiting a specific period of time. The outcome seems to be just as likely successful whether you get pregnant right away or leave it some time for your body to 'get back to normal', as is sometimes suggested.
I don't think that there is any reason to believe that it will necessarily be easier for you to conceive quickly.
Certainly people who have fallen pregnant once are more likely to do so again, because you have proven your fertility - even though the outcome was unfortunate this time around.

Thursday, February 05, 2009

Your Relationship After Miscarriage

Miscarriage can wreak havoc even on the most stable of relationships. Both partners in a marriage have to deal with the loss in their own way. Here is a good article on re-establishing your relationship after a lost pregnancy:

Re-establishing intimacy after a miscarriage
Dr. Trina Read, Calgary Herald

From the article:

"And so four to six weeks passes, and it is time to climb into bed with your partner to have sex. This is the moment things can go two ways: Your heartbreaking experience can bring you closer, or it can start to subtly whittle you two apart.

The key to becoming closer? Communication. Keeping the lines of communication open will strengthen the fragile intimacy that binds you together.

Miscarriage is fraught with so much emotion, there is an understandable propensity to ignore, deny and pretend it doesn't exist. It's the big white elephant of your relationship: omnipresent, but no one will discuss the fact it's there.

And it certainly doesn't help that men and women see the ordeal through a different set of eyes. The woman has had a front row seat from Day 1; while her partner has been sitting in the wings watching the drama of her morning sickness, excitement and extreme tiredness unfold. Hence, when the fetus is lost, neither appreciates the other's perspective."

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Preventing Stillbirths

My miscarriages were all first trimester losses, but I've often wondered how devastating it must be to carry a pregnancy to term or almost to term only to lose it. Here is a a link to an organization which hopes to educate women and health professionals about how to prevent this devastating outcome:

The National Stillbirth Society

Here is their mission statement:

"The mission of the parent-led National Stillbirth Society is to "educate, agitate and legislate" for greater stillbirth awareness, research and reform. Ours is an "activist" organization, fighting to overcome the inertia of traditional practices and to challenge those medical care providers who routinely accept stillbirth as an unfortunate but unavoidable outcome of pregnancy in a small percentage of cases.

Every year 30,000 American women experience pregnancy and the pain of childbirth only to end up with a dead baby. More than half of these mothers will never learn why their babies died because their doctors don't know and autopsies don't show. How is it possible for a mother's womb - that gave her baby life and nourishment - to somehow become her baby's tomb? Without answers, there can be no prevention.

While some stillbirths may be unavoidable, babies who evidence no medical cause of death should not be dying. Ultimately we hope to reduce the incidence of stillbirth from all causes. At present it is the unexplained stillbirths that present the best chance we have to achieve immediate and significant reductions in stillbirth fatalities.

With the help of mothers, fathers, friends and families, we can change the course of stillbirth in America and we must, because if we don't, who will?"

Friday, January 16, 2009

Stillbirths and SIDS

I found this site (link below) which you may find helpful if you've had a stillbirth or lost a baby to SIDS (or if you know someone who has). It gives support resources, recent research and ways to cope. Read more;

When A Baby Has Died (

Here is some helpful information from the article:

"Because as many as two-thirds of all stillbirth deaths cannot be attributed to a specific identifiable medical cause, often times parents, family members and even physicians are left with unanswered questions and overwhelming feelings of guilt. It is very important for those Dealing with Stillbirth to understand that these deaths are rarely caused by anything the mother did or didn’t do during her pregnancy. Stillborn babies are born mostly to mothers who followed the rules and had adequate pre-natal care.

Medically speaking, stillbirth is the death of a baby in its mother’s womb after 20 weeks gestational age and up to the moment of delivery, which is when many die…. suddenly and without warning.

After suffering a stillbirth it's not uncommon for former close friends to become estranged, and for strangers become one's new close friends. Even family members can become estranged. Few know how to deal with parents who have experienced a stillbirth death so they simply avoid them. It is our hope to provide parents, family members, physicians and others with information and resources that will help them understand these deaths as much as possible, while we continue to support critically needed research and educational efforts to eliminate these tragic infant deaths."

The article also gives some links to other helpful resources.

Monday, January 05, 2009

Alternative Medicine, Home Remedies For Miscarriage

I found an interesting article which talks about some things to do to help prevent miscarriage. This article is written from the alternative medicine point of view so many recommendations may sound unconventional but may be worth a try. I can't vouch for their recommendations since I did not try them, but they still may be of interest.
Read more here (

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